WHEN it comes to rights, women can be seen to have an advantage over men.  When registering a birth at the City Hall, we can choose to leave the father’s name out of a child’s life from the very beginning with no questions asked.

Child benefit and tax credits are paid to us and we have a better chance of getting the keys to a social home than a single parent man.

Absent parents are legally obliged to pay the resident parent a set percentage of their income for the upbringing of the children.  The resident parent does not have to show receipts for purchases.

Family courts favour us in custody battles unless there are reasonable grounds for siding with the father.  The evidence is clear, single fathers get a raw deal.

But what if the mother has been treated badly by the father during pregnancy?  Does she not have the right to decide if she wants him in hers and her child’s future?

If a woman is going to be raising a child alone, she will need financial assistance and a roof over her families head.  If she has previously paid tax and National Insurance contributions, then she has every right to stake a claim in a system she has put into.

Unfortunately for society, some women see pregnancy as a meal ticket.  They have no intention of working and a baby allows them to stay at home for five years.

Some mothers don’t know what it’s like to be at home on a Saturday night, because it would be like the end of the world to sit in and be there for their kids.

As conservative attitudes have mellowed, some women have children with multiple fathers and see nothing wrong with it.  And some men are like dirty sailors with kids in every estate.  Thankfully the days of the Magdalene Laundries have gone, but there’s a such thing as self-respect.

To stop a half brother and sister marrying, the church insists on the father being named on the baptism lines.  This can’t be a bad thing.

In parental disputes, the losers often turn out to be the kids and the grandparents.  Children don’t ask to be born into volatile situations and grandparents have the right to bond with their flesh and blood.

Then again, what if the soon to be grand parents aren’t widely pleased with the notion of a child arriving unplanned?  Their attitude during the pregnancy should also be taken into account when the child is born.

Child centred grievances shouldn’t be aired in local newspapers or social networks but at contact centres where it’s a neutral and safe environment.   Surely if a parent was serious about their child having a dual upbringing and an absent parent wanted to prove their worth, they would show up to the appointments.